#SOL18 Day 25
You can’t always get what you want (3x’s), but if you try sometimes well you might just find…you get what you need. ~ The Rolling Stones
I’ve been writing lately about our new normal. My husband lost his job last June. He was lucky enough to find another employer who was absolutely wonderful when Chuck was going through his heart surgery and recovery. The problem is the salary is significantly lower than what Chuck has been making the past few years, and unemployment benefits have run out. I teach in a parochial school, so my salary is nothing to write home about compared to my public school counterparts.
I am certainly not complaining – on the contrary – this has been a learning experience. While some lessons are harder to learn than other, some lessons are more important than others. We have been blessed with very generous family and friends who carried us financially when we could not carry ourselves.
Now we are re-evaluating our wants and needs. There are lots of things we have taken for granted, but without disposable income, we can’t afford right now.
Things we need:
Good health
Health insurance
House
Heat
Food
Vehicles and fuel
Things that are nice and we might want but not necessary:
Daily newspaper
Manicures
Premium cable channels
Dinner out
Vacation trip
New car
This is just a quick glimpse of some of our wants and needs. The point is we are paying more attention and thinking twice or three times before we make a purchase. Do we really need it now? Is important to the quality of our lives?
What really gives us happiness in our lives?
Having our bills paid each month
Good results on our blood tests and doctor visits
Spending times with our kids and grandkids
Spending time with each other – laughing quite a bit
Spending times with friends and family
So what have I learned so far? It is OK to want things, but you shouldn’t obsess over what you want. You should be grateful for EVERYTHING you have in your life, and the rest will just fall into place. You should continue to try to be as generous as you can to those who have less than you. Take time to notice all the good things in your life that most days we take for granted – the sunrise, the kindness of friends, the smile of a stranger. I may not have everything I want,but I definitely have everything I need.