Spontaneity, the hallmark of childhood, is well worth cultivating to counteract the rigidity that may otherwise set in as we grow older. ~Gail Sheehy
A couple of weeks ago, I was having breakfast with my dear friend, Diane. Diane comes to my classroom once a week during the school year from her “real job” at Penn Mutual Insurance to “tutor” my ELA students. She has done a variety of things over the years – revising, editing, helping with oral presentations and such, but the most important thing she does for/with my students is to listen to them. The few minutes they get to spend with her are a treasured time. The kids always ask me, “Is Mrs. Check coming this week?” It is definitely the highlight of their week.
As we chatted over our breakfast skillets, Diane told me she was planning to see Won’t You Be My Neighbor?, the Mr. Rogers documentary, with her sister at 1:30. I was so bummed. I had been wanting to see the documentary for a while, but didn’t know who would be a good person to ask to go with me. Unfortunately, I had an appointment to get my haircut at 2:00.
Long story short, after a few texts to her sister, Diane had rearranged her day so that she could go to the 11:15 show with me instead. I felt a little guilty that she ditched her sister, but I was so happy to going to the movie! Diane, thank you for your spontaneity!
As we got ourselves settled in our seats, I noticed that there were about eight other people in the theater – not bad for a morning show. Being the nerd that I am, I promptly got out my little notebook that is always in my purse and patiently waited for the previews to be over. For the next 90 minutes, I was in childlike wonder of this awesome man of faith and love. I tried to write down as many bits of wisdom as I could. Every once in awhile, Diane would hit my arm and say, “Write this down!” It isn’t easy in a darkened room to figure out exactly where I was writing, but I did OK. I only wrote over something once.
What follows are my favorites of the notes I took that morning. I would love to see it again to catch all the things I missed.
- Love or the lack of it is at the root of everything.
- There was a lot of slow space in his show but no wasted space. Silence is one of the greatest gifts we have.
- The outside world of children’s lives have changed, but their insides haven’t changed.
- Love is what keeps us together and afloat.
- Those who try to make you feel less than you are are the greatest evil.
- Best learning – accept and expect mistakes and deal with them.
- It’s not so easy to quiet a doubt.
- You don’t have to special or sensational things to have people love you.
- No matter our job – we are all called to be repairers of creation
- Be true to the best you within.
- Let’s make goodness attractive
Fred Rogers was a man who always saw the best in people. He was making social statements without hitting people over the head with them. He loved children, and they loved him back.
I highly recommend that anyone who has children, teaches children, or loves children see this documentary for yourself. It has made me think about how I want to be when I go back to school. Not only do I want to teach my students, but I want to see the world through their eyes and remember that all that any of us want is to love and be loved in return.